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The Ten Commandments (Part 3)

Exodus 20:12-14


·         It’s sad that today most people can tell you which celebrity is dating whom but they can’t quote the 10 commandments!

·         The rest of the commandments we are looking at now focus on our relationship with man, whereas the first four focus on our relationship with God.


I.                    Honor your father and mother

a.      Funny illustration:

A man was in the supermarket was pushing a cart which contained, among other things, a screaming baby. As the man proceeded along the aisles, he kept repeating softly, "Keep calm, George. Don't get excited, George. Don't get excited, George. Don't yell, George."

A lady watching with admiration said to the man, "You are certainly to be commended for your patience in trying to quiet little George."

"Lady," he declared, "I'm George."

b.      Most kids don’t understand all that their parents do for them, and often take them for granted

                                                              i.      They go to a job they don’t exactly love

                                                            ii.      They put off their own well-being, ambitions, goals

                                                          iii.      They sacrifice their time, energy, and money

c.       So, kids really need to obey this commandment!

d.      Youth is often worshipped and sought after, and old age is dreaded or despised

e.      This commandment helps us recognize the honor older generations should receive

f.        It obviously means to obey (follow instructions) but to honor means much more!

g.      To honor one’s parents includes to prize them, to care for them, and to show respect or reverence.

h.      V. 12- This commandment promises stability and longevity-

                                                              i.      The interpretation: This is a command for Israel in the promised land- a long stable occupation of the land God would give them

                                                            ii.      Application: we can have a stable, blessed life based on our obedience

                                                          iii.      Eph. 6:1-3- This is a very practical commandment!

1.       Life-saving- illustr- Ed Carter

2.      You roll your eyes, stomp your feet, etc. at mom and dad- you’re not hurting them you’re hurting yourself!

3.      Rebellion is costly, and many have paid a high price personally for their rebellion against their parents.

i.        You dishonor God when you dishonor your parents!

                                                              i.      Many kids wonder why God seems so distant- check your relationship with your parents! (rebellion, silent treatment, bad attitude)

                                                            ii.      Your role right now is to obey the rules, not make them! (illustr- boss/servant)

                                                          iii.      By the way, delayed obedience is disobedience!

j.        God is promising a well-ordered and secure society without chaos, and unruliness

k.       This commandment is an essential building block for any society

l.        If we are seeking the stability of our society, and of our families- then the fifth commandment is of utmost importance!

m.    So this is also implying that parents must teach obedience! (They don’t have to teach disobedience)

n.      Loving discipline (it might seem like those two words shouldn’t go together!)- Hebrews 12:5-10- Thank God for strict parents who set boundaries and lovingly discipline!

o.      The family unit is crumbling today!

                                                              i.      School shootings- the damaged home life (Sunday School?)

                                                            ii.      No prayer and devotions in many home +7 hours/day in the public school+ barely an hour of church on Sunday is not a formula for spiritual success!

                                                          iii.      Many families have a limited commitment to church/things of God (there are a lot of people with the bible verse- as for me and my house…but its hypocrisy!)

Prevention is better than correction, suggests an English study of criminal behavior, and the key may be better training for parents. The Cambridge Study of Delinquent Development tracked 411 London males from ages 8 to 32. It found that a man was most likely to be convicted of criminal behavior if he'd experienced the following between the ages of 8 and 11:

- a broken home

- low family income

- poor housing

- antisocial parents and siblings

- poor parental supervision

- harsh, erratic child-rearing behavior

- delinquent friends

- problems in school

p.      God has placed your parents over you- you didn’t get to choose them!

                                                              i.      Yes, they are imperfect- but you must still obey and honor them!

                                                            ii.      Learning to obey your parents prepares you for a lifetime of obedience to God!

                                                          iii.      We don’t obey ungodliness- Ezek.. 20:18-19. There are certain exceptions to parental obedience- Luke 9:60- this commandment is second to our primary duty to God

II.                  Thou shalt not kill- the commandment against murder- Ex. 20:13

a.      In Exodus 20:13 it says, "Thou shalt not kill," yet God killed people in floods, famines, and had Israel go and kill entire people groups. In fact, tonight we will look at I Samuel 30 where God specifically told David to attack and kill the Amalekites. So, is there a contradiction?

b.      There are two different Hebrew words (ratsakh, mut) and two Greek words (phoneuo, apokteino) for “murder” and “killing.” One means “to put to death,” and the other means “to murder.” The latter one is the one prohibited by the Ten Commandments, not the former.

c.       Murder is the unlawful taking of life.  Killing is the lawful taking of life.  God is saying, "All murder is sin, but not all killings are sin."  After all, God says killing in self-defense is justifiable- Exodus 22:2

                                                              i.      Capital punishment- Ex. 21:14, Romans 13:1-7

                                                            ii.      The soldier on the battlefield during times of war is not guilty of murder. That soldier acts at the command of a government.

                                                          iii.      And finally, although far from acceptable, manslaughter is yet another form of killing someone- differs from premeditated murder. This unintentional act apparently happened so often in biblical times that cities of refuge were designated for the manslayer to seek refuge in (Exodus 21:13; Joshua 20).

d.      The first recorded act of murder was when Cain killed his brother Abel (Genesis 4:8).

e.      Gen 9:6- capital crime. Human life is sacred! Man bears the image of God! Abel’s blood cried out to God!

f.        How many unborn babies blood cry out to God every year in our nation through the sin of abortion!

g.      If there is a commandment which most people think they have never broken it is this one- or so they think

h.      Murder is a family of sins. Hatred, slander (assassinate someone’s character or dignity), enslavement, etc. are included (See Lev. 19)

i.        This was not just momentary outbursts, but intentionally wounding someone-even with words

j.        The tongue can be quite the murder weapon!

k.       God defines murder as any thought or feeling of deep-seated hatred or malice against another person. In other words, it is more than just a physical act that constitutes murder to God (1 John 3:15)

l.        It is a matter of the heart- Matthew 15:19

m.    Envy- spitefulness- illustr- Cain had already murdered Abel in his heart!

n.      “Christian murder”- silently withholding the truth of the gospel; staining the testimony of Christ

III.                Adultery Ex. 20:14

a.      See Lev. 18:20, Deut 22:22

b.      Adultery- A person who is married willingly seeks a sexual encounter with another person- both are guilty of adultery

c.       This is a serious sin in God’s eyes because He established the institution of marriage

d.      God created marriage to be the building block of His creation and of society. Even after the fall (Genesis 3), marriage is still a sacred union and the foundation for society. In marriage, the full expression of the image of God is made manifest as the man and the woman complement and complete each other. The Bible also teaches us that marriage is the vehicle through which God designed the procreation of the human race and the preservation of godly offspring

e.      Marriage is a beautiful picture of Christ and the church (Eph 5). Adultery corrupts God’s design

f.        Adultery (and other sexual sins) were commonplace amongst the cultures of that time period

g.      Yet, God wanted His people to be distinct in the area of moral purity

h.      Within this commandment is a prohibition of a family of sins (fornication, incest, rape, homosexuality, etc.)

i.        Jesus in the Sermon on the Mount even included lustful thoughts- fantasizing is just the same in God’s eyes

j.        Protect your marriage! Therefore, we must avoid all things that would create within us lustful thoughts (e.g., suggestive songs, sensuous movies, pornography, etc.). We should also avoid immodest clothing or anything that might cause a brother or sister in the Lord to stumble in this area (1 Timothy 2:9; 1 Peter 3:3).

k.       I Cor. 6:18- the seriousness of sexual sin

l.        Adultery rips at the fabric of society because it tears apart marriages and families which are the building blocks of society

m.    If our society followed God’s plan for a monogamous relationship for life there would never be a “me too” movement!

n.      We must also guard against spiritual adultery- James 4:4


·         More Americans can tell you what’s inside a Big Mac than recite the 10 commandments!

·         No wonder we have drifted so far into disobedience as a nation!

·         These commandments reflect the holiness of God, and how He wants His people to walk in holiness! They are guardrails for our own good!

·         May we not just be hearers of the word, but doers!